Thank you for sharing that, Rap.

Janie, this is something Rumi wrote that helps me a bit, though the pain of loss is about the sharpest thing there is:

You have a potion
which you give the despairing,
secretly, lest the hopeful,
grieving for it,
should utter lamentation:

Look as long as you can
at the friend you love,
no matter whether that friend
is moving away from you
or coming back to you.

Eiseley