Here in the UK we have Al-Anon, a branch of the AA for the partners, family and friends of alcoholics. It gives tremendous support for YOU and keeps things in perspective from YOUR point of view. Sometimes carers and families of alcoholics sacrifice almost too much of their own peace of mind and even safety, and this doesn't always help the sufferer. (I'm not for a moment suggesting this is what you do!) You'd meet other worried carers and get wise advice from those who truly understand. I can recommend Al-Anon, as a friend of mine attended for about a year and found it of tremendous value.