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Thread #136028   Message #3107108
Posted By: Stringsinger
04-Mar-11 - 04:55 PM
Thread Name: BS: Dealing with 'Unreasonable' People
Subject: RE: BS: Dealing with 'Unreasonable' People
The only way to respond is to stand your ground against such people, not with violence but defiance by refusing to back down. The truth is that it is impossible to deal with unreasonable people with reason. As Noam Chomsky has pointed out, you really can't "speak truth to power" because the powerful know what the truth is.
There are some dictators who do not respond to human feelings of others. It's a very difficult situation but appeasement is no answer.

I agree with LadyJean. This is the brave way to handle such a situation. Losing your temper displays a kind of appeasement.

The problem in attempting to construct a dialogue is that negotiations are co-opted
by the unreasonable person who will attempt to abuse them.

Being firm, defiant without violence, clear in your own mind what you believe to be right,
and if necessary, be willing to walk away unless the unreasonable person displays violence physically. The best answer then is to seek support from others. It's OK to shout for help. Sometimes a police whistle can be helpful.

In a work dispute, legal help should be sought immediately.

If the unreasonable person is unbalanced, then outside help must be sought and under no circumstances should there be an attempt to reason with them.