The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #136028   Message #3109452
Posted By: GUEST,Patsy
08-Mar-11 - 03:54 AM
Thread Name: BS: Dealing with 'Unreasonable' People
Subject: RE: BS: Dealing with 'Unreasonable' People
People who criticise something that they haven't tried perhaps just because they never had the opportunity or freedom i.e. women who never 'went' for a career then years later resent those who have had more opportunities or had the opportunity to travel to expand horizons. Mainly I guess I am talking about my parents generation and not through any fault of their own. They can't help it but have become blinkered to anything other way of thought. Possibly envy too that young women/men have other things to look forward to other than a life of drudgery like travelling the world or having a career and may be a car.

A friend of mine although not quite that age had a sheltered upbringing all her life and brought up in a very old fashioned way. She never married and had never been encouraged to. Her remaining parent died a few years ago now. Now after years of devoting her time to her parents she has seen her life go by without having ever experienced anything and would rather say she didn't like something or a particular kind of music or meals out as being 'expensive' and waste of money and of course people don't rush to her door too often. And yet she will express envy if she sees a young confident lady or hears of a work colleague going on a foreign holiday which is similar to my mother's attitude. I find this very frustrating and unreasonable, mostly I ignore it and put it down to being 'her way' sometimes I feel like saying 'the sky isn't going to fall down' just because for once she is going to do something out of the norm like go for a slap up meal somewhere.