Having suffered through three long-distance separations due to job moves, I can tell you that it isn't easy. It does, however, make or break the marriage -- ours became stronger each time. There should be decent health insurance through the employer, and you would probably be vested by the time you retired so that health insurance would be part of your retirement. William & Mary would be a Good Deal if you can land it...and I THINK (ask Jacqui) that he would become a US citizen because he's married to one.