And manyoung people join 'tribes' because they are fearful not to. They also go on to then behave as the tribe leader tells them, but inside, they may well be shuddering at what's going on. Do they have a choice? Well, yes, they do, but it's not that easy for so many when they're young. Few people have the guts these days to be individuals. They run with the crowd, eventually learning to fit in, even whilst hating doing that very thing.

Once again, I'm not saying that bad behaviour is OK, it most certainly isn't...and it makes me as fumingly angry as anyone else, but I can understand why it's happening.

Just yesterday on the bus two young people started playing their music REALLY loud, at the back of the bus. Everyone sat there fuming, you could see by their expressions.."Young people!!!"   I simply turned round, smiled at them, then said, "Excuse me, but could you please turn that down a bit?" They did so immediately, apologising..and I thanked them. End of story, no harm done...Yes, it irked that I had to say it at all, but again, if no-one tells you, then perhaps you never think how irritating it is to others. Always worth a try..and if they don't respond to Mrs. Nice Gal, then they get Mrs. Angry, which usually does the trick too, but I always try the nice approach first.