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Thread #137212   Message #3137978
Posted By: Lizzie Cornish 1
19-Apr-11 - 02:40 AM
Thread Name: BS: Not 'Chavs' but Poor
Subject: RE: BS: Not 'Chavs' but Poor
For the umpteenth time, I am not excusing bad behaviour, I am merely telling you where it comes from and why. Until society changes, until education changes, it will only get worse. But I know one thing, NOT speaking to those you regard as 'chavs', not smiling first, being the one to hold out the olive branch, is the worst thing you can do, because to look at them with a sneer on your face, which reads "SCUM!" only fuels their behaviour.

Trust me, I've had some run-ins with some of these young people, tried to get them to see another way, sometimes they do...sometimes they don't. It depends on how much hurt and anger is inside them I'm afraid.

If you have never been loved, you don't know how to pass that on. If you don't know who your father is, an anger burns within. If your brothers and sisters have different fathers, the anger burns within all and so the circle binds itself tighter around each generation. Add to that all the outside pressures going on, and you create a melt down of violent youngsters who feel utterly alienated and who become the very people that you so sneer about from your lofty perches.

Some people have a poverty that goes way beyond money. It is 'easy' to be poor if you are surrounded by love, kindness, sympathy, support and friendship, no matter what the hardships, because your soul is rich, you feel loved, know you are loved and that you belong. But if you have none of that in the first place, just an emptiness, harshness and more harshness surrounding you, then no amount of money will ever make you rich because your soul is dirt poor and your heart rattles with rage.

We have created our own Dust Bowl I'm afraid. The Grapes have become bitter....and for many there is no Tom Joad to look for who will always be there, along with his loving family.