Why do you want to save something that is a lot of work? What is your gain? What do you need from/ want from this relationship? What makes it worth the effort? or is it?

In my case, Dorothy, I rather learned the hard way. I was in an abusive relationship for nearly 4 years. I look back now and never recognise me back then as to who I am today. There was no pleasing this person. They made it out everything wrong was my fault and that only I could put it right. I had wrecked their life. They loved me and I was useless. I had to give up my friends to show I loved them. I was nothing without them. I would never be anything without them. I tried, unsuccessfully, for almost three years to get that relationship back to where it was for the first 6 months before it finally dawned on me. The person I was with those first six months was not the true person. The person I knew for a further 4 years was the true person. Once I finally opened my eyes to that fact there was no going back. I saw my bridge and I crossed over lighter....

People often invest huge amounts of love and time into bad relationships. Still others have no wish to see a relationship fail. Others try to remedy things and heal the scars. The list is almost as endless as amount of broken relationships because every one is different

However. Onward and upward! I never will allow someone to get so inside of me again as to be able to destroy who I am. I survived narrowly but I did survive :)

mp