Patsy: "One day I did find the courage to bring it to an end but it was still difficult there were many times that I could have changed my mind or that he could have changed my mind for me but the thought of returning how it had been made me more determined not to. My youngest son had forgotten what his father had been like and I even had him try to talk me out of it which was even worse.

I have been happier now than I have ever been through my married life."

Ok, I'd like to ask you a question, but not to attack you, but just a thing to ask yourself. Certainly feel free, not to answer on here...and I'm asking this respectfully, OK?

Like a man, a male child is going to generate love, (like you might have expected from your husband), and, as in the case with his father, overlook some hurts he might have to bear, just like he would when he gets married,(I'm speaking of the mechanisms). Do you feel that your happiness was of more importance to you, than your son's?...and, have you anticipated forward, to having a son 'pick his dad' from a variety that may come into your lives?....and have you considered, how that would affect his later life?..and again, what's more important?

Give it some thought, perhaps deeper.....keeping in mind, I'm not familiar with the details...just your side of an overview.

Respectfully,

GfS