I agree with you, YY, when I went onto Cafe Tropic, I was merely looking for international contacts for interest and to learn about other countries, I wasn't looking for a partner at all! My husband wasn't either, he wanted contacts abroad for the same reason. Even when we planned to meet up in person, we didn't really have expectations of becoming partners, and I booked separate rooms in the hotel in Ghana. But when you're not desperately searching, you're more relaxed and natural. And you see the real character of the other person as well. What we both liked in eachother was the moral and respectable attitude to life, and the sincerity. We felt we could trust eachother, and we still do. We've never regretted it for a moment.