The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #138029 Message #3169589
Posted By: Janie
12-Jun-11 - 08:02 PM
Thread Name: Grateful Mom and Sis are alive
Subject: RE: Grateful Mom and Sis are alive
While they both still have a ways to go, Mom and Annie are both feeling sooooo much better than when I was home two weeks ago. Both in much less pain, and more mobile.
One thing I have always admired about Annie is her focus and discipline - (a prime reason she is a good musician and I am not.) That trait is serving her well now. She is a bit ahead of the curve in terms of PT, and has such a positive and hopeful attitude.
Mom is still a couple of weeks away from starting PT for her arm, but is doing all that she can also. Neither of them are wasting any time on feeling sorry for themselves, and are focusing on rejoicing in progress and the retreat of pain as healing progresses. As the worst of the injuries and initial pain subsides, they are now more aware of other pains and problems that they can't figure out if they were already there, but obscured by more acute physical issues, or if they are just now coming to light.
They both still sport an amazing number of technicolor bruises, even three weeks after the accident, but Annie no longer looks like a raccoon!
Their biggest immediate struggles now seem to be dealing with the tedious boredom always involved in physical recovery.
The legal and financial aspects of this whole affair are going to take a long time to play out. The young man had insurance, but had not added the truck he was driving to the policy. Annie had good uninsured motorist coverage with what is considered high limits for medical expenses, and both Annie and Mom have medical insurance, but it is clear, just from the statements that have come in thus far that the medical expenses for the two of them are going to be astronomical. Even though the other driver was entirely responsible for the accident, Mom and Annie will ultimately be financially responsible for the medical treatment they receive if assorted insurance coverages are not sufficient to cover the full cost.
Has me rethinking the medical coverages on my own car insurance for my son and I, which are considered good, but not top of the line. Also has me feeling very grateful that my son has never enjoyed adrenalin rushes or speed, be it on a roller coaster or behind the wheel of a car.
One thing that is really weighing on my mother is that she can not offer her condolences to the mother of the young man who caused the accident and died as a result. The attorney has been very clear that none of us can make any contact with his family until such a time as all claims all settled. Mom understands and accepts this. Still, she is so aware there is another mother out there who lost her father and her son in less than a 24 hour period. Dad died just 7 weeks before the accident, and Mom particularly can imagine the depths of grief that other woman must be experiencing.
As a family, we also think it likely the family of the young man is having similar thoughts and feelings of wanting to reach out to Mom and Annie. It is only human to want to do so.
But stupid to do so.
Makes a sad and grievous situation for two families even more so.
All of your thoughts, prayers, good wishes, good intentions, care and concern make a difference. I know those of you who post, and those of you who may check in and offer some of the above without posting know that.
I say this often because I mean it, and because it has meaning not only to me, but to my loved ones - thank you. I am grateful.