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Thread #139294 Message #3193602
Posted By: Dave the Gnome
23-Jul-11 - 01:11 PM
Thread Name: BS: What do you say when they're dying?
Subject: RE: BS: What do you say when they're dying?
My very good friend, Gary, died at the age of 52 last October. Big C of the aesophagus. It was very difficult when we all found out - It was only in around June or July - but the best advice I can give is spend as much time with him as HE wants. Ring him or text him. Ask if he is up to it. If he is get your butt round there! If he isn't up to it leave it a while. If he doesn't want to see anyone at all repect his wishes.
If you do get to see him talk as if all is OK. Mention the Cancer by all means but don't be glum about it. Just be honest. We were there one day when the nurse came to catheterise Gary.
'Can we watch?' said John. The nurse wasn't sure if we were joking or not but when Gary said 'No, they are not joking. Piss off you perverts.', it made my day. Laugh a lot. Cry a bit. But most of all, remember all the good times.
Good luck
Dave