'well, obviously I am making an effort to understand the situation, but somehow I shouldn't be'

I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to understand the situation but what is not helpful and at times gravely irritating are the assumptions and judgements you make while doing so. Little inserts like 'God help us' when unarmed adults/guards in a youth camp are mentioned show that you come at this from a mind-set that fails, refuses maybe, to understand the circumstances of the society in which the situation developed and you are seemingly not trying to obtain any understanding of that different mindset. You just charge forward, tunnel vision, if there's a thing people on this thread feel you shouldn't, that's probably it.