Addie Mudcat is exactly the right place to post, we may not be able to do much and sometimes we get a little glakit and squabble but when one of us is troubled we gather round.

Don't know if you have the equivelant in US but here in Uk we have a voluntary service called Victim Support who can provide moral support and advice. We go with the victim to court pre trial so they can get an idea of the layout and procedures involved and help them with any questions they may have.

I hope you have something similar your family shouldn't have to go through this alone. I hope you won't be offended if if I hold all of you in prayer.