Bobert -

Having observed your commendable seeking for understanding of this difficult subject over such an extended period, it occurs that you might find some help through only a fairly minor effort.

The news reports that the Aussies have come up with something you apparently need, and at least for a while it's available with a clear description of what you must do. While it does require international travel, other enjoyments might also accompany the effort.

'The Female ****** Explained' offered on Qantas flights.

Although it's from the Aussies, and a documentary that may or may not have "high production values," it is reported to be about the most popular item on their current in-flight entertainment list.

And so far as I could tell it doesn't have anything to do with 'roos or wallabies (although one never knows 'bout them down-unders).

John