Hopefully at least one of those men is still in your life, CarolC. A woman can find a man to screw her (if that's all she wants) just about anytime, anywhere. But I would think the experience you describe must encompass all levels of intimacy besides the physical one.

Finding someone with whom you can share a mutually intense, intimate and enduring passion is becoming a rare thing. Yet that's supposed to be a big part of what "it" is all about. Either the standards and expectations got higher or the odds of finding a soulmate got lower. Maybe both.

Those who find bliss by losing themselves in another person, the one to whom they willingly and unconditionally surrender everything, come as close as two people can come to becoming one person. They redefine their "I" in terms of "We." They are truly blessed. They have won the lottery, climbed Mount Everest, discovered the Fountain of Youth, found the meaning of life.