Culture-- Belief--

There are some cultures and/or belief systems in which dancing is a little more complicated matter than current psych or "rights" values. I would want to know how the belief system in which this scruple is operating might come into play, and within that I would ask if there is a greater good trying to be won here, and how that is served or not served by the discomfort around the dancing.

From there, these sorts of questions (in no particular order or combination) might arise: "What are you REALLY trying to accomplish? Is dancing the only place in the new relationship where there's a fly in the ointment? Is it a fly or a butterfly? What is consistent with your belief system? Is that system working for you? Has it always felt like this or is this a new concern? When and how did this start being an issue? Why are you asking about this here instead of asking your partner? Does s/he share your beliefs/culture or are you inviting them to? What would be in it for them to consider that?"

~S~