Lizzie, sex does not need a defence mechanism. It's sad that you are so threatened by it. Women can dress as they please and do as they please.

As to tribal traditions, the first thing the incomer has to do is to listen and learn. Playing a flute or a nose flute is not necessarily "folk". It might be. It might not be. It depends.

You have reaped as you have sown, in terms of hostility, because of the irrational and indefensible things you spout. There are no folk police, no folk nazis, no folk storm troopers - well, hardly any. Like Don Quixote, and with as much sense, you are tilting at windmills.