"a $9 an hour job in a coffee shop that is an hour's drive away and can't drive right now because she possibly had a seizure so someone has to drive (2 hour round trip) twice a day (gasoline @ $3.29 a gallon) to get her to and from her $9 an hour job (6 hour shift"

Ahhh... ya need to sit down, do the arithmetic on paper, show it to her... it ain't just the gas... wear and tear and tires and... unless she is doin the work to get unemployment stamps? I had to do something similar years ago to get money to eat and *I* had a master of science in engineering - there just were not any jobs here, period. I coulda taken lots of jobs elsewhere in Canada or all over the world but my old man was dying and that's what mattered - staying home.

I hope it works out. Patience, Bobert, might be your best friend. As for the chef doing the stained glass thing out of a van... well, best I don't comment. Nor you. Let the P-Vine take care of that.

Hahahahaa... IMAGINE! ME... ME... giving advice. I am surprised anyone read this post this far. IF ya did, that is. >;-)