Gee, never lost my cookie before...

John Gray - My kids are "in charge" because they have a disability, one for which there is no test in utero... autism. There is actually a technical term for it - "parents held hostage". If you come to my house and want to use the toilet, you have to be instructed as to the code for the lock box outside the bathroom that has the key to the door which is always locked. The difference between the "no trouble" kid and the peanut butter smearers isn't always a matter of parenting, but genetic. (I'm a genetic mess) Margo :-)