"... i have never meet anyone who hates "gays, women or fun","

You haven't? I have...(well, some just have an 'unusual' idea of 'fun'.)
I lived for 30 years in the Bible Belt of the USA, and heard almost every fundamentalist, hateful idea expressed or implied. If you do an internet search you can find them by the carload!
It is possible to 'mostly' insulate oneself from those sorts, but they are out there, and they are serious. (You don't know about the church in Topeka, Kansas, which sends people to street corners and to the funerals of veterans to scream that "God hates fags!"?)