I agree this has been a thread notable for its free and respectful discussion. And Gs, your reply was SO illuminating; I hope you did not feel attacked by my post because I really was very curious and tried to express that foremost. You can see that a certain defensiveness I have unfortunately developed here at the Mudcat had influenced my view of your reason for writing. I need to work on that even more than I already do.

This is great. I will remember the tenor of this thread for a long, long time.

~Susan