"First, you will do yourself no good. Second, it can't help her to have an ill Tam on site."

Agree with the eminently sensible Sinsull.
Plus sick Hil stressing over sick Mum stressing over sick Hil = even sicker Hil.

If you're sure you want to go, you need to be sure not only that Hill both wants and needs you there, but that you're fit for it. Otherwise to be unkindly frank, you will become a greater hinderance to her well-being than an aid to it...



Dunno if this will be of interest, but some Buddhist meditation and healing links for Chelmsford:


http://www.chelmsfordfaiths.plus.com/Buddhism/Buddhism.htm