The thing I try to remember is that every event whether it was a car crash, the murder of an individual like Susan Pilley a large scale event such as the one Mrrzy's father died in or some natural disaster like the volcanic eruption on Heimaey in january 1973 (If I remember right thankfully no human deaths). Each leaves scars on those involved each scar is personal and no two people are exactly the same in how they react.