Teri - get a reality pill. The military personnel are there and are fighting because they were ordered to do so. They do not have an effective personal choice to exercise. They know when they join up that this is what will be.

They may be brave to take the decision to enlist in that knowledge, they may hope that they will defend against aggressors or bring enlightenment to savages, but it does not make them heroes, for they do not know what they will be ordered to do.