I'm with you there, Penny. I knew a couple back in Chicago who found out that the wife was pregnant with an acephalic (is that the right word? brainless, anyway) baby. They couldn't bear the thought of bringing the child into the world to watch it die in pain, so they terminated the pregnancy. The sad part is that they went to a very conservative church, where "no abortions no matter what" was the policy, so there was nobody there that they could share their pain and grief with. This all came out when they were having supper with me and my (then) wife, kind of in a rush. They were so grateful just to be able to talk about it, and not have us condemn them. They had enough pain and grief without having someone zonk them for being "murderers."
Perhaps this is why I'm not a "no abortions no matter what" sort of guy.
Ironically, not many years later my (then) wife had a miscarriage, and this was (in retrospect) a major cause in our subsequent divorce. I hope that couple back in Chicago got better help than we did.
Not sure where I'm going with this. Except to say that a mother who chooses abortion is a human being, in a very difficult spot, who needs our compassion and forgiveness and (if I may be so bold) love, far more than name-calling and recrimination.
A long-time person-ist,