the trouble is which side of the mirror you are looking at.

The families side - elderly parent needs helpso lets get them help.

Elders side(depending on what they lived through) - I am becoming less of the person I was I always had to be strong for them I cannot let them see me being week. This will cost money will I have enough left to pay for my funeral. I dont want to be a burden on my family. I lived through the meanstest i dont want my family to go through that.