Can I just say I'm feeling a lot better--more self-confident & less resentful--now. And in a different place in terms of what seems like common sense, if that doesn't sound too wifty-wafty. Seamus K--no, of course I hadn't asked, I was waiting for THEM to ask ME, because they would if they REALLY liked me... Bollo to that.

Mr Bland is right--sour grapes are no good for anyone. But I think I needed to indulge my inner Kevin--instead of repressing him and telling myself to think positive--in order to realise that.