Of course you're heartbroken, Patrish. You'd have to be cold as ice not to be bereft at such a loss. We do so try to keep a stiff upper lip, but sometimes, wailing and rending of garments is appropriate. (Although maybe not on the train .. or in traffic...)

The worst thing we can do with grief is stifle it. So let 'er rip, darlin' -- and don't be in a rush to tidy yourself up so that you can be presentable about your pain. Closure is fine, when it's time. But this freshly and this newly after a loss, try to let as much of the anguish out as you can. Very American of me, I know, but letting it go does make way for life again ...

My heart is with you.

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