I'm having some difficulty understanding the premise for this thread. "Submit" was introduced as an alternative to the traditional service, which has "obey"? Seriously? The traditional service in the Anlican Church in Australia still has the wife promising to obey the husband? That hasn't been so in Canada since the 1959 revision of the Book of Common Prayer. I consider myself a traditionalist Anglican, but "obey" has not been in the wedding liturgy since I could count past three.