Most people, whether internet users or not, are only casual readers. (Maybe "The Lord of the Rings" has more attentive readers than Mudcat, but many are neither.) Misconceptions abound, in many ways. Do not worry about that; correct us whenever really necessary. (Still, I wonder how someone who claims to have listened to your singing can think you are a man or boy - he should definitely consult an otologist.)

Good forum participants will

• only answer to threads they have read completely
• try to understand the previous messages, including the posters' expectations and mindsets
• if they did not understand something, ask before commenting
• only write at all if they are reasonably sure to find readers that are interested or really should be
• state any assumption they make (e.g. "In case you are a man, ...")
• write clearly, providing all necessary side information so that readers understand
• write so that readers stay interested
• reread their own message before sending, preferably wait for another five minutes.

Unfortunately, we do not always follow these rules, but we can all try.