Personally I've never found physical appearance or attributes attract me particularly. Some of the most alluring and delicious men I've known wouldn't pass muster to look at, or in the trouser department either. What blew me away was their conversation, personality and attention they gave. A man who really engages with you and communicates beautifully is a real turn-on, because you feel you can form a rewarding and interesting relationship with him. Anyone can bonk. But not everyone has the ability to be a true friend and interesting companion.