Hope it all turns out lovely, and that you have two wonderful children from the 'trying' and 'tedious' process which confronts you.
Alison (above) is a Midwife, and so was I about a hundred years ago - it seems that you have both of us in your corner, 'barracking' for you, and cheering you on...
There is nothing I can say to make this easier for you - the usual pithy platitudes apply...
Hang in there...
Take it a day at a time...
We are thinking of you...
Cheers