I don't feel too happy with terms like 'eldercare'. We all get old, unless we die, and those of us who are already pretty old plan and hope generally to get a good bit older. And we can expect that in various ways we are going to need other people to do some of the things we been used to doing for ourselves. And as at all times of our lives we need to be involved with people who get on with us and put up with us, and we want the people who do stuff for us to be like that.

But I don't feel comfortable with that being given the kind of labels that are more appropriate to looking after young children. "Care" is a word that I feel needs to be used sparingly and carefully in this context. What it's really about is help and respect and friendship.