Megan, I'm so sorry about Dauvit. I hadn't heard until just now.

If you perform a song, I think it's possible to put everything else in the background for a bit. It's like when you know you have to do something and for just a short period of time, that thing becomes more important than anything else. So the song is everything while you're singing it. I think I'm talking about the same thing Megan was.

That said, emotion is what music is about, and it's what memorial services are for. They're about bringing people together who share memories and feelings. If you cry, it's the best possible time and place to do it. Sometimes I make it through songs simply because I have to. Practice helps, but it might be good, for so many reasons, if you prepared and sang with some other people.