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Thread #149881 Message #3491512
Posted By: Little Hawk
17-Mar-13 - 03:42 PM
Thread Name: BS: Psychobabble!
Subject: RE: BS: Psychobabble!
Mrzzy...shyness is the visible result of a form of social anxiety. Though, it does seem like a rather verbose way of saying it, I suppose.
Anger arises out of fear. So does shyness. So does greed. So does prejudice. So does envy or resentment. So does jealousy. Matter of fact, I think virtually all human emotional dysfunctionality arises out of fear of some sort, and then shows itself in its attendant symptoms. It might not appear like fear (in the case of the angry, dominant person, for example), but that's what it's based on. The bully is secretly afraid of a number of things, and that's why he (or she) becomes a bully in the first place.
Not mentioning that in connection with anything you said previously, by the way...I'm just thinking out loud about it because it interests me.
In the complete absence of fear, one experiences ideal relationship. That is...trust, friendliness, love, fun, spontaneity, relaxation, a sense of calm, mutual acceptance, respect, confidence to express oneself freely and be who one really is instead of putting on an act, etc. (Many people have this kind of relationship much more easily with a pet than they do with another human being...which is kind of sad. We're a lot more scared of what other people can do to hurt us.)
I think we need to teach these things in school (and demonstrate them) a heck of a lot more than we need to teach most of the stuff which is presently being taught. Memorizing facts does not really educate a person or prepare them for life. Without a sense of life's inner meaning and without a coherent ethical purpose for one's life, facts just become empty noise.