Evolution spent millions of years making SURE that male animals would have strong reactions to female animals...and for many millions of years, the male with the strongest, pushiest response was allowed to breed.

We are barely a few thousand (or hundred, depending on who you talk to) years into expecting males to stop, think and respect in many aspects of the process...the genes that say "react" are still around, but society says "slow down and listen and don't be so greedy"

'taint easy...but we'd better try