Hi leeneia! I think the lifestyle you describe chimes largely with mine. I do have opinions but apart from on this forum, I keep them to myself! I spend my time reading, growing stuff, doing needlework, visiting my elderly friends and above all thinking. I think a lot. And most of my thoughts lead to the conclusion that 'I just don't know', or 'I'm not at all sure'. When I was quite young, I tended to be very firm about what was right, correct and irrefutable. The older I get (and I'm really old now!) the more I see that my theories may have holes in them. One of the qualities I most admire is humility and another is sensible wisdom. Many here on Mudcat have both in spades. Yourself, Little Hawk, Joe for example. People like you listen and learn. The other contentious and aggressive types don't listen, they bully instead. And they don't learn very much at all.