Howard, you bring up a most excellent point!
I was about to 'take exception' to what you were saying, UNTIL, I remembered that there was a woman whom I knew, Who I actually thought she LOVED her man. She relayed this story to me, that she said she had never experienced before she had met her present guy. She was telling me, that she was driving away down her driveway(she had a long one, in the country), and I believe she was thinking about the guy, and lo and behold she had a full blown orgasm...without any physical stimuli or contact to her own body. I had heard of that before, but never had an occasion to actually talk to someone who had that happen.
Now if you'd read a couple of my earlier posts, I DID say, in regards to the 'spiritual experience' that I did not believe you can 'give them to yourself'..at least not the ones I'm talking about....any more that you'd be able to 'control' where your experience with a psychedelic drug, such as psilocybin, would take you if you took enough to really 'get you off'!
What triggered her orgasm???....For me, I could only speculate..I wasn't there in her brain..I could only listen to her explain it...She was very much blown away, by it, and felt comfortable talking to me about it...and when she was done explaining it, i believe she was telling the truth....HOWEVER..(big 'however') women's orgasms are hugely emotionally triggered, more so than guy's...so whatever emotional threshold she crossed must have been a big one.
That being said, I've had a saying for years, that is sad but true...and you might want to give it some thought...."Finding a woman who REALLY LOVES her man, is about as rare as finding a man who REALLY loves God!"......that one goes down several layers!
In both cases, some spiritual experiences, and this woman who had an orgasm the way she did, both were 'surprises', and neither is under the control of the recipient, but the recipient can 'lose control'...but anyway, thanks for getting back, with an intelligent question, as opposed to a half witted 'rebuttal'!!

Regards,

GfS