it will never be resolved as long as we allow it to be used like a political football, and leave it to those who espouse their fundamentalist extremes to set the terms for a solution

This isn't really what's happening. Most of us just want to be left alone to get on with our lives. The fundamentalist extremists on this issue are all in the anti-abortion camp. The only reason it's a political football is because the anti-abortion camp keeps trying to pass laws about what other people can do with their own bodies. There is no balanced "both sides are at fault" here. Why do you think there is? Are there pro-abortion fundamentalists telling people that they have to have abortions? Are there pro-abortionists telling people that not having an abortion is an offense against God, so we need to make a law to make sure we all follow God's rules?