The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #150683   Message #3513244
Posted By: ChanteyLass
09-May-13 - 12:07 AM
Thread Name: BS: Dementia tips for carers
Subject: RE: BS: Dementia tips for carers
Sometimes lying is the best policy. When my uncle was in a nursing home, he would often ask when certain people were coming to visit him. At first I reminded him that they had died. For him it was like hearing that for the first time each time. Fortunately I learned to lie before he asked me when his late wife (my aunt) was coming to see him--a question I'm surprised he did not ask much sooner. I said that she was too tired to come that day but sent her love and would see him as soon as she could. When he asked about other people who had died, I started telling him that I didn't know, or maybe tomorrow, or in a few days.