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Thread #150683   Message #3513311
Posted By: billybob
09-May-13 - 06:48 AM
Thread Name: BS: Dementia tips for carers
Subject: RE: BS: Dementia tips for carers
I have learnt not to give my mother a choice, just saying "would you like a cup of tea or a cold drink " can cause panic. So I just say " I think a hot /cold drink will be nice". I put mum's clean clothes out for the morning when she goes to bed and whisk the worn ones into the laundry quick as mum would wear the same things every day. However she often puts on two vests or blouses if I'm not looking! As long as she doesn't look silly does it matter? No one knows what is underneath but me.

Luckily I was able to clear her bungalow without worrying her as she had already come to live with Billy and I , I brought all her bedroom furniture and pictures and ornaments that she loves. Everything we had no room for is stored in my loft but she never asks where anything is! She never mentions her bungalow but often talks about living in our house in London ( we moved from there in 1960)

I find it is best to agree with everything she says ,that gives her peace of mind, but don't ever feel guilty if you get cross or shout, we all get to the end of our tether at times, when I do I get on the laptop and go to " Jane's Rainbow thread" The crew there are always ready to listen.