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Thread #150683   Message #3514325
Posted By: Wolfhound person
12-May-13 - 05:23 PM
Thread Name: BS: Dementia tips for carers
Subject: RE: BS: Dementia tips for carers

The situation you describe sounds ominous to me. If the neighbours think there is a problem, then there probably is - they see your in-laws every day or so.

When you visit from away, both will probably try and be on their "best behaviour". They may well be less able to manage than you think.

Getting a formal "assessment" of both their capabilities by the social services is the next step, to the best of my knowledge.
That then means that they are on the radar if / when something should go wrong and you will have less emergency firefighting to do from a distance.

The only other option is moving them nearer to you, or moving yourself - and I'm guessing both are out of the question.