Once again I do urge any carers to read " Contented Dementia" by Oliver James

Three golden rules, Don't ask questions at all, really very difficult but ALWAYS causes stress,
Be led by the dementia sufferer, they are living in a different time to you and me.
NEVER disagree, it will cause you both stress and unhappiness.

V Tam, do get your mother in law diagnosed asap, for your father in laws sake as well as hers. Contrary to what most people think there is a lot of help in the UK, personal budgets, Admiral Nurses, etc. but until they confirm the illness nothing will happen. Also for goodness sake get power of Attorney for health, it will be very important and takes ages to process.

Wendy