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Thread #150683 Message #3515191
Posted By: GUEST,VaTam on her Tab
15-May-13 - 02:55 AM
Thread Name: BS: Dementia tips for carers
Subject: RE: BS: Dementia tips for carers
Yes. Even though Mum is not into music, she never had the attention span to listen properly, she does love it when Dad starts singing and whistling. He knows loads and used to sing in Bach choir. So when he starts singing it sort of brings her back to us.
When Dad calls us to help him comfort her during an episode, I always suggest that he go along a bit when she does nit recognise him, maker her a cup of tea and ask her to talk about what Arthur (Dad) looks like, his interests, indicating that he would like to meet him. Then while making tea start singing something she is familiar with.
I should mention that at last vist she was convinced that TSO was her husband and not her son. TSO looks nothing like his Dad. Beside having long hair and beard his Dad never had, he has his Mum's facial features.
So her imagination must be working overtime when this happens. There have been so incidences of mixed up memories cobbled together as well.
I am finding this thread a great boon to helping cope with being on the sidelines regards Mum and Dad in law. I love them dearly, but am not in position to butt in.