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Thread #150683   Message #3515196
Posted By: Joe Offer
15-May-13 - 03:21 AM
Thread Name: BS: Dementia tips for carers
Subject: RE: BS: Dementia tips for carers
Grandma's 98 and still here, but it seems like she's on the way out. My wife takes care of her all day, and I stay up later and get the duties later. My mother-in-law was pretty good until about two years ago, but it has been tough since then - especially the last three months, nothing we can do keeps her happy for very long. She's confused, and has some hallucinations. She'll ask a question and we'll give her a very patient explanation; and then she'll ask the same question five minutes later.

But she doesn't want to die, and she keeps hanging on. Every day, I think she's only going to last a few days, but she's still here. I suppose some morning we'll wake up, and she'll be gone. I wish we had the energy to sit beside her all the time, but we just don't.

It's hard.