The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #151268 Message #3530342
Posted By: Bill D
25-Jun-13 - 06:11 PM
Thread Name: BS: Do You Ever Lose Your Temper?
Subject: RE: BS: Do You Ever Lose Your Temper?
Among people who know my usual low-key demeanor and basically trust me, losing my temper can be a useful thing... it catches their attention and shows that something important is happening. It does NOT happen often.
When among people who don't know me, blowing up in anger will 'usually' be an excuse to ignore or reply in kind, leading to nothing useful. If I feel the need to really tell someone, or express my displeasure with their behavior (or lack of it), a controlled, tedious rant in a cold, focused manner will often get their attention, if not their cooperation.
I had to do this several times last weekend when *sigh*, I had to go to a hospital emergency room and eventually be admitted for 2 days (I'm fine now, thanks) The hospital staff NEEDED to be told a few things, and were sort of obligated to let me go on about several things. IF I had just exploded, they would have probably shifted into "deal with loud, nasty people with standard techniques" mode. I'm sure they get plenty of those.
Like Ebbie, if I just shout my equivalent of "bullshit", I usually end up frustrated and upset at myself.
I am not really sure why some people have shorter fuses and less self-control than others, but I do believe much of it is just habit.