Ebbie, no need to feel bad. We were talking about characteristics of people in general, and how to deal with them. M misquoted you, so he may be thinking of a different kind of person altogether. So did I when I mentioned rapists, of course - my model was the notorious DSK, or rather his image in the media. He (or it, the image) was seriously convinced that every woman wanted sex with him, in connection with a generous gift, so that he forgot the usual precautions.

I am not sure whether there is such a thing as essentially a very good person – some of the most notorious mass-murderers have been so described by their mates and family.

Really good friends will appreciate hints about their flaws before things get serious.