I've found that the strongest communities are created when we develop a 'curiosity' about each other. Asking the question (at least to myself) what is this person wanting by posting this comment?   Then trying to find out, rather than reacting to it.

Let's see there was one person on mudcat where I 'cringe' when I see that he's posted on something. And I'm so often tempted to react and let me know how unpleasant he is, etc. etc.   What would be gained? Would he read it and suddenly 'change'?   No. Would it spur on others to also attack?   Probably......and then I'd feel horrible because it would feel like bullying.

My challenge would be to find an opening to respectfully question something he writes and to be truly interested in the answer.

Until I can do that, I'll try to ignore most of his posts.   And if there are a lot of people about whom I feel that.....I'd probably stop being a part of mudcat.