Akenaton, I have an aunt who is gay. It might interest you to know that she is very old school. Doesn't believe in gay marriage. She said she is not different to be the same as everyone else. She feels it is a false sense of equality and just plain weird. What she wanted from her life- the unconditional love and acceptance from her family first of all, her friends, society's blessing to be herself- she feels she got. She's not in favor of restructuring society, feels it is unnecessary and probably not a good thing. She believes sexual orientation should be handled by society with discretion until adolescence, meaning no gay marriage and no exposure to homosexuality until it matters.

My aunt is my favorite aunt. She was always the kindest and most sensitive of my aunts. My aunts took turns babysitting us and when it was her turn it was like, "Yay! Gonna be an easy night!" one of my aunts was kinda mean. Not her. She is one out of five girls. My poor grandpa was overrun.

But to make a long story short, Akenaton, I don't automatically categorize you as a hater. Politically incorrect yes, but hater no. Muskrat, don't assume you are defending everyone within a given category. People are individuals. Muskrat, society is not served by making the real homophobes worst nightmares come true. Divisiveness is not where it's at.